Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives

10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives uses real-world examples from Schlessinger's radio show and private practice to drive the message home. And the message is that our reticence to be bold and brave often makes us act like stupid, submissive victims. Once we muster the courage to take responsibility for our own problems and to tolerate the discomforts of risk, the possibilities for personal growth and joy are limitless.

If you're looking for an all-approving hand to hold, you won't find it here. If you're prepared to take a clear-eyed look at your self-diminishing behavior and to make the move to a quality existence, there's no one better than Schlessinger to keep you honest and to cheer you on. One thing's for sure: You'll never look at your relationships, behaviors and decisions the same way after you've finished reading this book.

---

All Customer Reviews
Average Customer Review:
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful:

I Don't Know, 2008-06-20
I don't know. I bought the book as a gift and haven't spoken to the recipient since. Personally I loved the book myself


0 of 0 people found the following review helpful:

Every woman should read it!, 2008-06-19
I think every woman of all ages should read this book. It is interesting to read, simple to understand, and so true.


0 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

You Move In, The Leverage Moves Out, 2007-11-21
As a female, when you move in with a guy without a commitment, the mistake is always the same: YOU HAVE NO LEVERAGE, and to make things worse, it is in fact, partly your own fault by way of collusion. If things go wrong and you realize he doesn't want to get married, keeps making excuses, he doesn't want to have kids, etc., you can never say "Then why did we get married?," because you never were, and you still aren't.

This book is a prophecy to those who think they can get something for nothing by "living together" and as a short cut to staying together. Personally, if I'm going to live with someone, I might as well get married, or not move in at all.

I've known several people who have moved in together, and it always ends badly, or someone begins WHINING, because they caved in and knew better, but have gone into denial. At some point, somebody wants to take it to the next step, while the other doesn't, and because there's no marriage vow to keep them together in the first place, the one who wants to bail out has it a whole lot easier, because they know the other has no leverage. The other person who wants out, has leverage on their side, and they know it.

Where it gets really bad, especially for girls, is when they subject themselves to CAVING IN SYNDROME. You tell everyone you won't move in with this guy unless he asks you to marry him. Blah, blah, blah. He doesn't. You cave in, and move in. This is where your undoing begins.

So, you move in and he never asks you to marry him, and you whine, and whine, and whine. That doesn't work. So, you get depressed and start spending a lot of time at Dunkin' Donuts, and your slim figure begins to resemble chunky chicken, and to make matters worse, it is at this time you figure that if you're not getting married, you might as well start seeing other guys. Well, now you have a compound problem. Most people with any sense are leery about seeing someone who is living with someone else. And you look like chunky chicken, so you're not going to attract the guys you want.

Now, let's say you do attract a guy and you "get together". You have to ask yourself, if he would get together with me while I'm living with somebody, what does that say about his character, and mine, when we become a couple and one of us gets bored, or things get tough?

Now, instead of thinking something is better than nothing, you realize that something is the same as nothing. Caving in doesn't pay off, in all sorts of situations.


1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

Coincided with a turning point, 2007-10-29
If you consider this book as nothing more than "common sense", count yourself as blessed - some of us actually needed to hear it. I bought this book at a major turning point in my life and it changed the way I looked at my future. Dr. Laura is "technically" right on almost all moral points but she does, at times, lack grace which, I admit, bothers me. And yet, at other times, I have heard her exhibit heartfelt compassion to her callers. But anyway, it is not for me to determine the motives of her heart; I can only say her advice is sound and her standard is truth.


1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

Highly recommend!, 2007-09-05
During a discussion with a friend of mine about a relationship issue I had, she made me promise to get and read this book. I have to say, it's a definite must read for any girl, lady or women that has any question about a relationship she's in. The author gives so many great examples of her callers and patients that I found myself able to see a clearer picture of what I was doing in my relationship.

Price is accurate as of the date/time indicated. Prices and product availability are subject to change. Any price displayed on the Amazon website at the time of purchase will govern the sale of this product.