by Claude M. Phd Steiner
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Product Description
The most lucid account of the patterns of problem drinkers ever set down in a book!
Drawing on soundly tested theories of transactional behavior, Dr. Steiner describes the three distinct types of alcoholics -- Drunk and Proud, Lush and Wino -- and their games, scripts and rackets: Debtor... Kick... Cops and robbers... Plastic Woman... Captain Marvel...Ain't it awful... Schlemiel... Look how hard I've tried... and others.
His approach is the single most useful tool for dealing with alcoholism since A.A. and the Twelve Steps, and offers the first real help -- and hope -- for problem drinkers and their families.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:
 Games Alcoholics Play, 2007-09-08
The first ninety-nine pages are an introduction into Transactional Analysis. I thought, at first, that this was excessive, but the payoff is in really understanding the different types of alcoholics and how they manipulate others around them. This book is excellent for the person dealing with an alcoholic in their own family and trying to understand and deal with the damage that person has done to the family.
2 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
 Lumps ALL Alcoholics into 3 categories, 2007-05-25
This book is based on the TA concept (trans-analysis by Eric Berne, BTW- THIS book is NOT by Eric Berne). Basically meaning everything we do is based on how we grew up/how people treated us throughout our lives. However, I know a lot of alcoholics (including my father and an ex-husband) and many don't fit into 1 of the 3 categories.
Very disappointing.
14 of 16 people found the following review helpful:
 This Book: My Life-preserver, 2005-10-26
I first read this book 25 years ago when I was entangled in my family of "executive drinkers"- -and found that I was repeatedly dating and working with alcoholics.The theory of the origins of alcoholism may or may not be accurate. What saved my life was reading the scripts. They describe the behavior of the alcoholic, those around her/him, and the inevitable results of denial.I saw myself, my family, my whole lifestyle. I saw the danger that I was in . . . .and I acted.I changed my location, my profession, and recreation preferences.Recalling the scripts in this book have kept me from again becoming entangled with destructive people. I have had a happy and productive life ever since.I can't recommend this book enough.
18 of 20 people found the following review helpful:
Cuts to the chase, 2005-09-02
An AA friend loaned me this book about 20 years ago. It made me aware of all the excuses I made for wanting to drink. I heard all of that mumbo jumbo about Alcoholism being a disease but I never bought into it and I'm glad I didn't because that would be all the excuse I would need to keep drinking until I died.
Steiner's other book, Life Scripts was a life saver also. After reading that book it didn't take me long to realize the script I had been acting out most of my life, that started when I was an infant taking the drug, paregoric, that contains opium and alcohol, that set me up for my addiction later. Even when I was young I was some what intoxicated because I was consuming excessive amounts of sugar, trying to recreate the feeling I got from the paregoric and the human body makes alcohol from sugar and fat. Then I got my first beer when I was 17 and I was off and running. The script was being played out again and I repeated it constantly until I discovered that I was acting out.
Another book not mentioned here is Choices.
I am of the opinion, based on my own personal experiences, that using alcohol in an abusive manner is a learned behavior, not a genetic predisposition. All you have to do is look at all of the advertsing for alcohol, all of the social outlets that include drinking, etc, to see that it is a big part of our social lives. What is a Football or Baseball game without a big cup of beer and a footlong hotdog? I think it is just a social disease, perpetuated by Corporate America!
29 of 58 people found the following review helpful:
 An alcoholic speaks, 2003-05-14
To say alcoholism is not a disease is an insult to us alcoholics out there. I just finished treatment for alcoholism a week ago and got a new perspective on my condition and got to hear stories from other alcoholics like me. Alcoholism is a disease. It is an incurable disease which comes from a gene in your system. This gene takes away the choice to drink in a normal manner. Any alcoholic would tell you that they would give anything to get rid of this disease and be able to drink normally in social situations but they cannot. Many have went through treatment, thought they were cured, and started drinking again under the assumption that they could now drink normally with no consequences. They reason they failed was because this gene which causes their disease has taken away their choice. Alcoholism is both a mental disease and a physical disease. An alcoholic that drinks on a very regular basis develops a physical need for that drink as well as a mental need. Physically, they will need to drink to get rid of the shakes, the loss of appetite, the inability to sleep, and other such physical symptoms caused by their alcoholism. They do not wish to drink but in many cases the only other option nwould be to suffer from painful withdrawal. Mentally, they need to drink to feel normal. Without that drink, they would become overwhelmed with anxiety and irritability. They make up reasons why they need to drink, and they make up excuses to convince themselves that they are not alcoholic. This is not because of irresponsibility, this is because of mental illness caused by their alcoholism. Consider people with other mental illnesses. Would you consider someone who is clinically depressed irresponsible because they can't just get over it and feel happy? Would you consider someone with schizophrenia irresponsible because they can't go out and find a job? Probably not. The person who wrote this book insults alcoholics by divididng them into the categories of Drunk and Proud, Lush, and Wino. This proves that he has no compassion for those alcoholics across the world who go through a great amount of suffering because of a disease they never wished to have. According to his definition, I myself would be a Wino. The traditional image of a Wino is some bum on the street with a bottle in a paper bag sleeping on a park bench. Well, it so happens that I am an intelligent hardworking individual with four years of college and a promising future. I am not saying this to be self-righteous, I am saying it because labeling me with a word with such a negative connotation is suggesting that I am in some way a detriment to society. As an alcoholic who has went through quite a bit of suffering because of this disease, I find it to be a shame that such a book was written that portrays those who have no control over such a terrible disease in such a bad light.
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